“There is something in every one of us, an ‘inner girl’ if you will, that has been crying for release since we were kids. She will never go away on her own, at least not permanently.
Owning yourself means accepting that your identity as a transwoman is just as valid as that of any ciswoman who was born “assigned female.” Your womanhood is just as valid, even if you are part-time and you can only release your inner girl for few hours a month. Owning and accepting this will induce the change in attitude I’m blogging about here: you will cease being apprehensive, feeling “guilty,” or thinking that everyone else in the place is staring at you. In three years of living “out,” I have been laughed at, ridiculed, by individuals at grocery stores, and glared at by in shopping malls - I assumed most didn’t like it that I am transgender. Or maybe thought I was a “man in a dress.” That’s it. Once you realize your going to encounter both good and bad experiences out of many hundreds of interactions with people you'll encountered who don't know you . Anyway, I digress, so back t...
