Having dinner with a friend Julie/Saturday night March 14th 2020

March 14th 2010

 

  I've had this happen to me before!

Recently, a friend (Julie) and I were being seated at a diner about 10 miles from home, and the thirty-something female server with VERY short (translation: not feminine at all) hair said “Hi …what can I get you to drink, her facial expression made both of us feel she wasn't quite sure if both of us were woman?”  We both asked for “just water, please.”  And with that, she took off to get it for us.  I made no attempt to soften my voice, and I was wearing a nice light pink oval neck blouse with a black and white skirt, two inch wedged sandals that matched my skirt, and white light sweater for a cover.  She may have seen my purse and nails when I walked in…but I’ll never know. 

Then came the absolutely amazing part.

When she returned with our drinks, she apologized profusely for miss-gendering me, and said she simply assumed we both were crossdressing males because of "my beautiful short hair".  When I first started going on public outings I did get mistaken for a boy all the time, so she probably wasn't fully aware of how that makes both of us feel .  Once again, I’m so sorry!”   My friend Julie remained silent (though I didn’t notice her blushing or anything like that.)   But I thanked the server for her compliment about how my hair looked, and accepted her apology (though I wasn’t at all offended…LOL!) 

 Then came the absolutely amazing part.

She treated us very well the rest of our meal, arranged for an extra big helping of dessert, and we left a nice tip.  

Usually once I’m accepted as a woman, most folks continue that acceptance, even once the revelation strikes them that I’m not what I seem to be.  So this was very unusual…and my friend Julie was also surprised.  (But after it happened, she didn’t mention it again.  Nothing else was said.)

Had a very enjoyable evening having dinner with Julie.

Trisha Robert

 

 

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