More than one way to be visible!!!

 I wasn't visible on the street until 2003, though somewhat improved today. And I hear a lot of girls saying they would so like to be out and about and part of it. But I think that just being online - via social media, photo sites, trans forums, a blog - or being known to spouse or friends, is in its own way showing your visibility to the world even if you can't actually be outside for whatever reason. A presence of any kind makes you visible to the world, and that is good enough.
This happens to be my 200th blog post. So even if someone stumbles across this blog by accident or when searching for something else they'll know there's another T-Girl in the world.

I have to mentioned as well that there has been some horrible things that have happened in my life as I emerged with my becoming more open. But if there's one thing that can be relied on, is that T-Girls do care for one another. I have met and become friends with so many nice girls in various stages of thier transitioning who have helped me tremendously to over come most of my fears about my being seen when I'm out grocery shopping, meeting with friends for a drink, dinning out, going to the movies... And I am pleased to say that it seems that a lot of my neighbors are no longer being terrorized by my living in the same condo-complex and some are taking more intelligent steps to see about trying to learn more about transgender issues and what many of us face daily in our lives... However it's still very stressful, though.

Around 2006 I tried coming out to my mother about wanting to be treated as a girl and told her about when I was 6 how my sister would allow me to wear some of her panties, nighties, and would dress me up on rainy days wearing what she selected and play house. When she finally caught me wearing my sister's clothes she hadn’t a clue what I was about. When my parents finally realized I was crossdressing in my teens, their sinister mutterings prevented my letting on again to anyone until my 40s.

My mother finally saw me fully transformed as Trisha in 2006. She was amazed with how my sister and I looked like her mother (my grandmother).
And when I did come out over the last 10 years, most of my friends were not very understanding – or even enthusiastic – when I let them know I was trans. All apart from one group of close friends who pretended to be supportive and then proceeded to out me to others and tore into me when they let me holiday with them as Trisha. What pigs! – some friendship appears deep but is really just superficial. The betrayal was so shocking that I will only now come out when essential. I haven't posted about this episode yet but maybe the lesson will be a useful one for others. I truly value those friends who have learned that I am trans and just accept that.

They're the minority and it's great that society seems to be slowly progressing favorably.
Trisha Roberts