A funny thing happened this past weekend. I reconnected with a friend I've known since childhood. We were close friends growing up and through high school, but we hadn't talked for over 30 years. When we were a bit more than 20 years old he even asked me to be his best man (definitely some irony there, no?) . He moved out of state and over the years we lost touch.
It had been years since I had last talked with him.
I never told him about my cross-dressing, fearful of his response... Then several days ago while visiting my mother. I bumped into him while I was shopping for my mother at the grocery store. At first he didn't recognize me when we both standing in line to pay the cashier. As I paid the cashier, he asked if I was related to a friend of us he went to school with... I said Yes, as I address his question and he seemed genuinely interested about my gender issue, at first not understanding but wanting to... We both talked extensively, discussing events from our lives as well as my living openly as a woman as we filled each other in on some personal aspect of each other's lives.He asked more questions than anyone else so far, except for Sue, and I mentioned this to him. He pointed out that despite the lengthy period of non-communication we have a solid foundation of friendship. It was very easy to be completely open to each other. Throughout my life I haven't let anyone get close to me, except for my spouse and friends I've made with in the support group I belong to. I've always felt myself to be an outsider, whether it be family or coworkers or any other group of people. With the exception of my gender secret, I had let my wife get closer to me than anyone else in this world. I have considered her to be my very best friend from day one, and since coming out to her our "soul mate" friendship and love has only grown. Before my wife came into my life I had always considered my childhood friend to be my best friend. Both of us chatted until it was time for him to leave but we agreed to meet again soon. Since coming out I've found a missed treasure. A close friendship with a friend I grew up with.
I never told him about my cross-dressing, fearful of his response... Then several days ago while visiting my mother. I bumped into him while I was shopping for my mother at the grocery store. At first he didn't recognize me when we both standing in line to pay the cashier. As I paid the cashier, he asked if I was related to a friend of us he went to school with... I said Yes, as I address his question and he seemed genuinely interested about my gender issue, at first not understanding but wanting to... We both talked extensively, discussing events from our lives as well as my living openly as a woman as we filled each other in on some personal aspect of each other's lives.He asked more questions than anyone else so far, except for Sue, and I mentioned this to him. He pointed out that despite the lengthy period of non-communication we have a solid foundation of friendship. It was very easy to be completely open to each other. Throughout my life I haven't let anyone get close to me, except for my spouse and friends I've made with in the support group I belong to. I've always felt myself to be an outsider, whether it be family or coworkers or any other group of people. With the exception of my gender secret, I had let my wife get closer to me than anyone else in this world. I have considered her to be my very best friend from day one, and since coming out to her our "soul mate" friendship and love has only grown. Before my wife came into my life I had always considered my childhood friend to be my best friend. Both of us chatted until it was time for him to leave but we agreed to meet again soon. Since coming out I've found a missed treasure. A close friendship with a friend I grew up with.
Let me take a moment to explain a bit about this... My hope is that at some point people out there in the world will stumble across this blog and read what I have to say. So if that is you ..thank you.
As much as I'd like to believe in magic, as much as I'm a dreamer, I do believe that I have a fairly good sense of reality. Perhaps some people who come across this blog have had some experience with gender dysphoria and gender issues. Or perhaps you know of someone in your circle who is transgender.. However, the far greater majority of the world's populace doesn't know that transgender people even exist. Or if they know they don't believe transgender is a real thing. I do hope that people might eventually find this blog..
If my discussion seems too basic or too graphic, I apologize...
As much as I'd like to believe in magic, as much as I'm a dreamer, I do believe that I have a fairly good sense of reality. Perhaps some people who come across this blog have had some experience with gender dysphoria and gender issues. Or perhaps you know of someone in your circle who is transgender.. However, the far greater majority of the world's populace doesn't know that transgender people even exist. Or if they know they don't believe transgender is a real thing. I do hope that people might eventually find this blog..
If my discussion seems too basic or too graphic, I apologize...
Trisha
April 13 2020
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